Recently I was on a panel with a client of mine. We had been coaching for about 12 months when we were invited to talk about our coaching relationship. She started the discussion by saying, “Linda was my second choice as a coach.” Everyone in the room laughed at this!
Then my client continued. “I had interviewed another coach prior to meeting Linda. I loved the other coach. There was great chemistry. During the interview with Linda, she made me very angry. It was on a Friday, and I was angry all weekend. I was stewing because I knew that the first coach would become a good friend, and that Linda would help me get where I wanted to go.”
This is not the first time this situation has occurred. I remember another interview several years ago. That gentleman was so angry that he said he didn’t even want referrals from me to other coaches. He’d find them himself! Several weeks later, he contacted me again and said, “I’ve interviewed 4 other coaches, and the voice I keep hearing in my head is yours. You told me the truth I didn’t want to hear.”
If you’re going to work with a coach, find one who
- Will tell you what you don’t want to hear
- Will say what no one else is saying
- Will not let you get away with….
- Holds you to the highest of standards
- Causes you to look at different perspectives
- Believes something bigger/better/more effective is possible
- Holds up the mirror again and again….and again
Work with a coach who will tell the truth that you need to hear, so you can be the person you know you can be.