I recently spoke to a friend and colleague who needed my input on something. This colleague has the highest IQ of anyone I know ( not exagerating), and an intimidating work ethic. She is literally the gold standard for productivity in our company. After a string of emails, I failed to understand what was required of me so I picked up the phone to chat and found my friend literally incoherent with stress. It took me several minutes to get her calmed down enough to explain what she needed from me.
It made me stop and think.
We forget that we are a finite resource.
We can do so much and no more. Even if we practice (highly recommended by coaches everywhere) extreme self care*, we can do so much and no more.
My sister Mia is a lovely person, does for others all day long. She is chatty, fun, highly engaging and extroverted until about 8 o’clock at night at which point she says “I am out of words”, and goes to bed with a book. Such a role model.
It is critical for all of us, as leaders, professionals, parents, and friends to know at what point we “run out”. Out of gas, as it were. Do you know when you are at a quarter tank? Do you have reasonable boundaries around your rest time? I have found that it isn’t so much others we have trouble saying no to, it is ourselves.
Stop and think. Remember, you are a finite resource.
*Extreme Self Care: A term coined by Thomas Leonard, a pioneer of the coaching profession and popularized by Shirley Anderson, considered to be a Yoda of the coaching profession. It could be defined as: enough sleep, proper nutrition, exercise, down time, meditation and/or prayer, time to connect with others, and fun as you need to operate at 100%. Click here for more information about the multiple aspects of well being from a Neuroscience standpoint.