Paying Attention

Like a lot of people, I spend a fair amount of time reading my favorite blogs and following friends and colleagues on sites like LinkedIn, Facebook or Twitter.  I have even been guilty of reading emails or texting while on the phone (not my proudest moment, for sure).  In this age of communication, with such a wide variety of technology available, doesn’t it seem unusual when you encounter someone who doesn’t really use it?  Perhaps a better descriptor is the “age of distraction”?  Because, honestly, I can’t say that the quality of my communications has improved, but the frequency certainly has.

With this in mind, I was in the audience of a meeting where Margie Blanchard shared how she begins her day.  She told us that each morning, she asks herself four questions:

  • What am I excited about?
  • What am I proud of?
  • What am I thankful for?
  • Who loves me and who do I love?

The self-reflection from paying attention to these four questions, gives her perspective and clarity in her interactions throughout the day.  Listening carefully to discover how these four things might be important to others builds trust and rapport over time.  It’s no wonder that paying attention is a key step in building a coaching relationship with team members.  The questions are simple, but I have found that in thinking about them, my communications have become more intentional and helped me rediscover the joy of thoughtful solitude…even though I am still tempted to tweet about it.

3 thoughts on “Paying Attention

  1. How about adding two more questions I found particularly helpful & effective:

    How will I interact differently today?

    What’s that little difference do I want to make in my life and the others around me today?

    Finding out the purpose behind what we do and see, makes all the difference we need in the world.

    Enjoy every day living differently.

  2. As a professional management consultant and workplace trainer & assessor, bulding and maintaining rapport is my number one priority, I have two mantras I use every day which I use to “choose” my attitude for each day and which is contagious.
    1. Today will be a wonderful day for me and everyone around me. (setting the environment and speaking it into existence)
    2. Today is “another day in paradise”. (whenever I am asked how I am, or how my day is going my reply is always the same – today is another day in paradise – and it is because I choose it to be, regardless of what is goining on good or bad – by choosing my attitude at the beginning of each day I am less affected by the negatives and able to share more positives with the people I connect with).

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