By Linda Miller, MCC
While teaching a coaching class this past week, a participant said, “This is what I’d like to say to my coaching partner, ‘I have feedback for you, and my intent is for your development, not to hurt you.’ But, how should I say it?” My response was simple: I encouraged her to say it exactly like that!
When we put our intent into the statement, we make our thinking visible. In this case, it means sharing our motive. Making our thinking visible is a powerful way of communicating. I first learned of this concept many years ago from Kepner-Tregoe where it is included in the 4 characteristics of world class organizations.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if others made their thinking visible to us? How many times do we try to guess what is meant or what the motive is? How much miscommunication might be avoided if we make our thinking visible?
Here’s the challenge for all of us, me included: Let’s be intentional to make our thinking visible for 24 hours and notice what happens! I’ll accept that challenge, starting immediately. How about you?